The short answer
Separation anxiety can still happen at 25–30 months, with wide differences between children. Keep goodbyes brief and predictable, use a familiar routine, and explain your return through an event such as after a nap. Follow through on what you say, and ask for support if distress continues or disrupts daily life.
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Keep in mind
- A familiar, brief goodbye can make the transition more predictable.
- Explain your return through a daily event your child understands.
- Arrange a warm handover to a trusted adult rather than disappearing.
- Persistent distress or disruption deserves professional support.
Can separation anxiety still happen at this age?
Yes. Children differ widely, and anxiety about separation may continue into toddlerhood or preschool.
Crying at drop-off or clinging does not by itself establish a developmental problem. Consider how your child settles, their wider wellbeing, and the pattern over time.
Keep the goodbye brief and warm
Use a short, clear ritual instead of repeated departures, returns, and negotiations at the door.
A hug and a simple phrase may be enough: “I love you. I am going now, and I will come back.”
Use a familiar sequence
When possible, keep the handover and goodbye routine similar so your child can anticipate the next step.
Every day need not be identical. The aim is a recognizable sequence rather than a perfect schedule.
Explain your return in everyday terms
Clock times may mean little to a toddler. Link your return to an event they know.
“I will come back after your nap” can be more concrete than “at three.” Choose a promise you can keep and tell the carer if plans change.
Say goodbye rather than slipping away
Tell your child you are leaving, even for a short separation. A carer can help them move towards a familiar activity after the goodbye.
The aim is not to prevent every sad feeling, but to make leaving and returning understandable and dependable.
Make a new carer more familiar
If possible, allow time for your child to meet and spend time with a new carer before you leave.
Rehearse the goodbye routine before starting nursery or childcare and agree a supportive handover with the carer.
What if bedtime becomes harder?
Anxiety about being apart can sometimes contribute to calling for a parent or night waking, although sleep changes have other possible causes too.
Offer reassurance and a loving, consistent bedtime routine. Do not assume persistent sleep problems are explained by separation alone.
When should you ask for support?
Contact your health visitor if your child is very distressed, remains upset long after you leave, or the difficulty continues for more than a few weeks.
Ask for help earlier if anxiety is seriously affecting nursery, sleep, learning, or your family’s ability to cope.
What can you try today?
Choose a three-part goodbye: a hug, one clear sentence, and a concrete explanation of when you will return.
For example: “Here is a hug. I am going now. I will come back after your nap.” Hand over to the trusted carer and follow through.
When to seek support
Some signs need emergency help; other concerns can be discussed with your child’s healthcare team.
- Distress repeatedly disrupts nursery or childcare, sleep, or everyday routines.
- Your child stays very upset after you leave or does not settle into separations over time.
- Your family is struggling to manage separations safely or comfortably.
Sources used for this guide
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The English text and regional guidance have been checked editorially. This is not an individual clinical assessment.
Luluna provides general parenting information. It does not diagnose conditions or replace your child’s healthcare professional.
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